Sleeping with a selfish man

So I’m sleeping with a man that’s 6 years older than me, you’d think he would understand how to please a woman but I think he’s truly selfish and doesn’t care.

First off, he has a thicker penis which in itself is great...the down side? He only lasts 2 mins every single time. I have asked before if he could jack off prior or maybe hold out and he said it doesn’t work and he can’t. So I’m supposed to just be happy with 2 mins of penetration? He hasn’t gone down on me either, but frankly I’m afraid to ask bc I think that will be a no as well. It’s such a let down. He’s a sweet guy, handsome, and we have a lot of the same things in common, but the sex is our problem area.

How do I talk to him about this without getting him upset or bruising his ego?