Manipulated by MIL and Husband to stay in marriage
*this is lengthy but you guys are the only ones I can talk to. I have no family/friends here in his hometown that I trust*
So I’ve posted on here before about my cheating husband. We’ve been married two years next week and he’s had a few “mistakes” happen. The earliest was 2 weeks into our marriage. We were working through it when we moved to his hometown which is at least 1,000 miles away from any family of my own.
Before any judgment, keep in mind that I am a Christian and I hold my faith close.
The last large incident was when I left to go to my parents house out of state for a few days to get my head on right. I was having a hard time getting over what had already happened and I needed time away from him to think and not influence my decision. Our marriage was very rocky and we fought most of the time I was there.
When I came home, I decided that we should look to see counselors because he told me he still wanted our marriage to work and I did too. I loved him enough to work through it and give it to God.
He swore up and down he didn’t bring anyone over. He wasn’t messaging any girls. Nothing.
I didn’t believe him so I pried for a couple of days until I got it out of him.
He brought a girl to my house that he dated in high school. He told her that I cheated and I lied and I went to my parents out of state and left him with everything. He’s a great liar, by the way. He made her park her car a few roads down so his parents wouldn’t see her car (his parents live next door). They had unprotected sex multiple times in my bed, my shower, my couch. He took her to the state fair which I had been asking for weeks to go. He took her out to dinner to my favorite place. I didn’t find out all of these details until this week.
This incident happened a year ago. He didn’t tell me everything and made it so minimal so I stayed.
When I found out, I was packing my car. He was calling constantly while he was at work so he had his mom come down and stop me. She told me it was partially my fault for him cheating on ME. She made me feel like it was my fault and that I should stay because he can “change” and it is the Christian thing to do. Of course, I fell into her mind games because my faith is my weakness but also my strength.
I finally saw what was really going on. So, I’m leaving this mf and I have a very strong feeling that his mom is going to try to pry because she knows that I’m easily manipulated. Not anymore. I’m afraid I’m going to lose my shit, honestly.
I need some kind of validation/supporting words.
I am young. I am confident. I am too good for his bullshit.
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