Has a child, but wants a girlfriend

Im 20 and i have a infant child, but I want a girlfriend and I’m kinda scared to get one because I know that a lot of times girls turn to the lgbtq+ community when a guy breaks their heart or after they have a child, and I don’t want people to think that’s the case with me (I’m pansexual and has liked girls ever since I could remember) but my longest relationship just so happened to be with a dude and I got a child out of it but since the relationship was so long, I haven’t been wanting a man. All throughout the relationship with him, I wanted a girl. To be with a girl, to touch a girl , to love a girl, but now I have the opportunity , it seems like it just won’t happen & it’s so discouraging 😕