My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 6 years total. In that 6 years I have endured a lot of pain and betrayal. I won’t get into exactly what but it’s caused a lot of resentment on my end. I am the type to love someone fully until I can’t love them anymore and I’m at that point. I had a 5 year relationship prior to meeting my husband and it was the same thing. I loved so hard and one day I woke up and something told me it’s time to leave. So I did and I never looked back. Then I met my husband. I think I may be at that point now, but I can’t say for sure. I just have so much more at stake here. Marriage isn’t as easy to walk away from as just a regular boyfriend girlfriend relationship. It takes time and we have 2 beautiful children involved. The children are 3 and under so they’re fairly young thankfully. I think if we did divorce, they wouldn’t be too affected. They’re used to their father being gone since he’s in the military and has field operations regularly anyways.

The red flags I’m noticing are we argue daily over ANYTHING. I don’t feel we’re on the same page. He likes to stay up late until 1am and I go to sleep at 9 pm. I wake up at 6 am and he would rather sleep in but we have kids so obviously that annoys me because then I’m left with all of their care in the morning.

Right now I’m in a totally separate room than him and he’s too engulfed in his phone to notice or care. He says we don’t have sex enough but we have sex at least 1-2x a week. I have a low sex drive due to the state of our marriage and bond and he has a high sex drive no matter what. He doesn’t seem to understand that the state of our marriage affects whether I want to have sex or not.

He would rather play Xbox and watch YouTube than spend quality time together.

He only cuddles me and shows interest in me if he knows we will be having sex, other than that he could care less. I mean even the dog is with me right now. The dog would rather not be around him. He’s always miserable. From the time he wakes up until he goes to sleep. It’s hard to be around someone like that. But another red flag I’ve noticed that speaks volumes is how I feel around him vs when I’m away from him. I am dead around him. When I’m away I can function off of 6 hours of sleep and I’m more energetic. I don’t emotionally eat and I don’t have sweet cravings like I do when I’m with him. I don’t snap, I feel like I barely need my anxiety meds. It’s sad to say but I’m happier away from him. After typing all of this it’s clear we need to divorce.