How can I stop overthinking I could get pregnant?

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(Btw I’m on the combo pill and have never missed a pill) So in the past I’ve had pregnancy scares which made me become such an overly anxious person so I cut sex out of my life until I feel ready. But now when my boyfriend fingers me I overthink I could get pregnant. I make him wash his hands beforehand to be extra safe but I still overthink. I just want to enjoy it but I can’t. I can’t get pregnant from him fingering me while his hands were washed beforehand right?

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Just stop having sex if you’re this ridiculously uneducated

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I’m mid twenties and share the same anxiety surrounding pregnancy and always have. When I was a teenager, I’d count the days to my period and check my phone relentlessly to see if it was time for my birth control pill (despite having an alarm set, and despite sometimes not even being sexually active that cycle ... anxiety still creeps in!). I’ve always taken precautions and in my twenties switched to the IUD, but to this day the worry still slips into my head and can impact my sexual experiences and take away from the experience. Plus my anxiety about it sometimes results in late periods from stress! It’s a nightmare. 
You won’t get pregnant from being fingered, but I’d suggest in the meantime holding off on sex while you work on the anxiety surrounding it and pregnancy first, that way when you jump back in to sex it will be way more enjoyable and you can be present for the experience! 
I’m really sorry you weren’t faced with all too much kindness with posting this, it sounds like you’re just anxious and it’s understandable. Do some research on sex, pregnancy, points in a cycle when you have the highest chance to get pregnant and avoid those, get to know your body and hopefully in time it will relieve some of the anxiety surrounding it for you! One day, sex will actually be quite the anxiety-reliever for you hopefully :)

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How old are you? I’m just curious. But no, you can’t get pregnant. And There’s nothing wrong with you coming on here and asking questions. Just try and relax, and just know that you can’t get pregnant until his penis goes inside of you. You’ll be okay! I promise.

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I can see how you would be worried! You're 16 and not in the best position in life to get pregnant BUT you're already being careful and responsible. The pill is usually reliable but it can fail. Nothing is 100% effective other than abstinence. Maybe if you used a condom as well you would feel safer? 
I'm sorry so many people have responded rudely to your post. I gather the post was about how to calm your anxiousness? It seems like you understand sex well, you're just worried about your contraception failing you. To me, that's a sign of responsibility and maturity. 
All I can suggest (other than abstinence) is to use condoms as well. That should not only help calm your mind but also keep you safe from STI's.

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I’m going to guess you are young, and some of these responses to your post may also be coming from other young people. It is okay to be worried. What will help is if you read and learn and talk to people you trust about it (adults, older family members). If he washes his hands and puts his finger inside you, it will be fine. If he touches himself but there is no semen on his hands, he has not ejaculated, and he touches you, it will be fine. What you should worry about, is if he ejaculates and it gets on his hands, and then he puts his finger in you after. Even then, you don’t miss your pills. If you take them properly and you don’t have semen inserted in you, you will not fall pregnant. It is okay to worry, but knowledge will reduce the concerns. Don’t just take my word for it either. Do further research from reliable sources!

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There is 0% chance of pregnancy from being fingered. Also, the pill does prevent pregnancy and it’s about 98% effective in doing so even if the guy came inside of you.

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Do you honestly not know how you get pregnant? That right there says you shouldn't have sex. 
I gotta ask now, how old are you?

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You need mental help and to stop doing anything intimate until you’re educated and mature enough to understand what you’re doing.

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Um I don’t understand why youd think that was possible?

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Noooo. And I just suggest condoms.

How can I stop overthinking I could get pregnant?

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