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If you want to do, it doesnt matter what other people think. The upside of having kids close in age is that you can save and reuse a lot! If i were in your shoes, (not saying you need to do this just that I would) I would get a part time job working opposite of my husband that way you wont need daycare and it can give you a little extra money for a rainy day. I would put all of my paycheck in a savings account and work up until the second baby was born and then stay at home with them.
Just curious of others opinions.
I am 26 and my fiancé is 49. I know... huge age gap. Luckily he doesn’t act or look his age 😂 Anyways.... we have one almost 9 month old. And he already has two way older kids. 21 & 19. They are out doing their own thing. But I’ve always said I would have at least two kids. I was an only child and hated it. So, obviously he’s on the older side.. which makes me feel that we need to have our final child ASAP. We plan to start trying in July when our son turns one. But here’s the part that sucks. We live pay check to pay check. He works full time while I stay home with our son. I plan to work when my son is a little older, I enjoy staying home with him rather than putting him in day care. If my fiancé was younger I would wait a few years to get more financially stable... but with his age I feel like that’s not really an option. I want him to be around for his child’s life!! We don’t necessarily struggle. We can afford our apartment, we have one car, and we can afford all of our necessities... just not much extra. If you knew you wanted one more baby would you do it or would you not? Most family and friends say to do it if that’s what we want. But there’s those few that I know will really look down on me and that bothers me. What would you do if you were in my shoes?
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Have another baby!!!! Me and my husband have been together for 11 years. I'm 29 and he is 52 and we have three beautiful babies 9,7, and 9 months and we plan on having one more. My husband has three older kids as well around my age and they each are doing their own thing and two of them have their own family. If money is an issue look for a part time job :) plus it helps to get you out of the house.
If you think you can financially make it work and you are both up for it I’d do it. I have some personal bias, I’m in a somewhat similar SO situation. My husband is late 40s, I’m quite a bit younger and I have two older step children. My husband won’t have another child because of his age although I’d looove one more haha. So if you can make it work...go for it!
Do it. The second one isn’t going to cost much if you have him/her now. Why wait till July? Just get it done now so they grow up close and you can use everything at the same time. Don’t bother with part time job. With two kids at home, you won’t be able to do it. But look at your budget and find ways to save. Then when the kids are in school, you can go back to working.
I’m 22 and my husband is 51! We had our first baby and she’s now 9 months. I’m in the same boat as you. We want another one but he says finances are why he doesn’t want one too. I want my daughter to have a sibling so bad so I’m at a loss. I think about it everyday. We agreed to talk about it more when she’s a year old.
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