I need you help

Jo

Jo • 1 Ectopic 2 early losses, now mommy to the beautiful E 🧡🧡🧡💗

My head is spinning I'm not sure if its because I'm going back to work next week so my anxiety is higher than normal. I've convinced my self that there is something wrong with my girl. She turned 9mth on the 16th and is making no attempt to move or pull herself up. It like the the idea of crawling/pulling herself up doesn't enter her little head. I try to encourage her but if I push it she will start refusing to put her feet down. She will stand while holding something if you put her there but wont try and step. If I try and help her step she will stiffen her legs. I'm terrified that there is something wrong with her development. At the moment I can't make a appointment with my GP or HV. I also know they will just say that babies all develop at different times, which I know but I feel deep down that something is wrong 😢😢

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B

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I definitely think work anxiety will be playing a part in how you’re feeling! I had a meeting with my boss this week to discuss my return to work (not until June) and I’m having a hard time accepting that I won’t be with my son all day and might miss out on milestones. You’re probably feeling more anxious for her to do those things now, so you don’t ‘miss’ them? Saying all that, it doesn’t sound like she’s behind AT ALL to me! The average age for babies to pull up is 9-12 months and I think cruising is more like 10+ months. I also think it’s normal for babies to take longer to figure out that they can use the furniture to take steps after they pull up, so don’t panic that she’s not there yet. All you can do is encourage her and I’m sure one day she’ll just surprise you out of the blue and do it! In terms of crawling, not all babies do it or are late crawlers - that’s okay! But, if you want to encourage that, pop her on all fours and help her to gently rock. Another trick I learnt was getting a rolled up blanket and popping it under baby. You can hold either end of the blanket and take some of their weight. If you are still worried I would reach out to you HV as they are still doing telephone consultations. Feel free to message me anytime, too! Us british mamas have to stick together 💜

B

B • Apr 24, 2020
I 100% understand that. For me, I know that all children progress at different rates (I deal with it on a daily basis) and meeting certain milestones like walking won’t have any bearing down the line. But, I see other babies walking on here and I can’t help but think my LO is somehow behind - then I get a grip of myself and remind myself he’ll do things in his own time! 😂 I think, again, it’s partly because I have so much anxiety that I’ll miss his first steps! Ah, that must make it more difficult! But I suppose it makes her all the more precious! I do not envy you having to wear all the PPE (assuming that you have everything you need 😬)! It must be a challenging profession anyways without having to worry about this virus, too. There’s 4 weeks of the term left before the summer break so assuming schools only remain open for key workers’ children until then, I’ll only be in a couple of those weeks. My school has spilt staff into 3 teams who work on rotation so you’re in for 1 week and then off for 2. Rinse and repeat.

Jo

Jo • Apr 24, 2020
Thank you the funny thing is that I'm the lady that if you called your HV would answer. I just seem completely unable to take my own advice, it's like professional me and mommy me are in competition for my brain. I think your right I do want to be the one that sees the 1st silly as it sounds. Plus I didn't find my partner until later in life and then it took ages to have a baby. I think I'm still waiting for the bubble to brust and I've seemed to shifted my anxiety on to Eliza development simply because there isnt anything else. Going back to work in the mid of all this isnt the best. As I'm a Neonatal nurse it hasn't had such an impact but I'm still going to have to wear a mask and full ppe on visits. There could be easier times to go back to work haha. If your back in June do you just do a couple of weeks and then break up for summer??

Ma

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My daughter's were late to the game with things. My oldest wouldn't crawl until 10 months & walked right after her first birthday. My younger daughter didn't crawl until 11 months, didn't even roll until she was like 14 or 16 months! And walked at 13 months. I think your girl is ok, she might just be stubborn like my daughters were.

Jo

Jo • Apr 24, 2020
Thank you I think stubbornness is the main problem she really doesn't like it if I try to help her. I think going back to work and everything else that's going on is making my brain spin of to crazy town xx