Does your SO ever switch things on you when it’s convenient for them? How do you put an end to it?

So my bf does this all the time and when I call him out he gets extremely defensive or he tells me I’m twisting things around and I just feel confused and angry.

Example:

I tell him that his tone of voice is extremely mean, rude, condescending, and I would appreciate if he talked to me in a nicer tone of voice because its making me feel unwanted and like I am a bother.

His reply: Well I am not being mean, I’m trying to talk to you and I’m being straight up. What you think I’m doing is your own feelings and that has nothing to do with me. Deal with it on your own because I am telling you I’m talking to you nicely and yes I do want you around because I want to talk.

When I tell him i would appreciate if he sees my point of view because my feelings matter he gives me the same reply “it’s not my problem, you have issues and you need to get it in your head that I’m not doing anything wrong”.

In the end I just give in and I end up in a bad mood and then he turns it around saying I’m sounding annoyed yadda yadda. I am petty and I give him his same reply and he gets angry telling me that I am wrong because he’s on the receiving end and he can clearly see it all and that I am wrong and need to fix myself.

So wtf do I do then? He never lets me speak because he interrupts by loudly speaking over me and it just destroys my mood for the whole day as well as the way he sounds and talks to me. I’m starting to wonder if it’s me who is making these fights. He tells me I always find something small to fight over like his tone of voice and that I have problems.

*before anyone jumps to break up, please give me actual advice. I am not planning on breaking up. This could just be the virus and isolation. We are LDR*

Any personal advice would also be really helpful.