Trouble with love language?

Hello all. This is the first time I'm posting as I need advice as this has been really bothering me.

My husband and I have been married for 4 years now (we got engaged 3 years before that). We both have different love languages. He likes kind/reassuring words and I like gifts/being thought of. I make an effort to always meet my husband's love language with kind words of how he looks, how great he is as a person etc but I don't find my husband meets my love language. For example Valentine's Day passed and I was overseas so I made sure to get him a gift and hid it for him to find but for me he didn't get anything at all. Then Mother's Day passed and again he got me nothing (we have 1 child). I'm not asking for expensive gifts at all. Even getting me a cup of coffee or donut for breakfast is more than enough. It's honestly the thought that counts. That I was thought of. When I voice my concerns he says 'oh I thought you don't like celebrating this kind of stuff' but I've said it countless number of times through our marriage that I do. He knows I don't want anything expensive. Like all I want is once in a while he surprises me with something small that's all. Plus when I convey he says 'just get whatever you want and I'll pay' but I want him to make the effort and choose etc. Am I crazy/overreacting? How can I make him understand?