Clingy Boyfriend

Hi there,

me and my boyfriend have been together for about 8 months now. At the beginning of the relationship (honeymoon period) we hung out all the time (seriously, all the time). We eventually had a falling out and i realized that i should be taking more time to myself.

I feel that my boyfriend is too clingy. Not affectionately, but borderline controlling. He hates my friends, and constantly comes up with “bad” things about them so that i will stop hanging out with them. The ones he does like, he wants me to invite HIM to hangout with them. I do bring him to some events, but obviously i like to be with my friends alone sometimes too.

If i tell him that i am with my friends and am not going to be answering my phone often, he gets upset and tries to tell me, “you only do this when you’re with *her*.” He’s constantly texting me, asking to call, tracking my instagram activity status (which i had turned off recently, and he noticed and got angry with me.) and trying to figure out what i’m doing. He’ll rush my plans to try and get me to go home and call him on the phone. If I do something with my friends, he’ll say, “why don’t you ever do (that activity) with me?”

I am his only friend he hangs out with. I suggested that he could maybe try and text some of his friends from school and make plans with them, but he refused, saying, “I know they’re too busy and won’t hangout with me.” I suggested he pick up a new hobby, which he also declined.

I have said multiple times how uncomfortable these things make me feel and it still seems to happen.

Right now, we are technically on a “break,” but would it be better to end it in this situation? I feel bad leaving him because, as I said, I am the only person he hangs out with. When I ended it last time, he still insisted on texting and calling me, which is how we got to this point of “talking” again.

Please help me. I feel so trapped in this relationship.