One month ago, my husband of 11 years came to me and said that he needs to leave me. He said he has to do this for himself in order to be happy. Initially he gave me some fake excuses but he has now admitted that he cheated. A few days after he said he needs to leave, he packed up and moved out of state. He emptied the bank account and has had very little communication with me. He blindsided me because we were not having any issues but he is lying to his family saying that I spend all his money. He has an addiction to shopping. Video games, electronics, TV's, anything it doesn't matter. This hasn't changed in the 13 years I've known him. It has been so bad that at times I've had to borrow from my family or use credit cards just to pay the regular bills. I have so many emotions that I don't even know how to process. He recently said to me that he expected me to be able to support him so that he doesn't have to work. He recently medically retired from the military and feels like he should no longer have to work. He's 42 years old. He has so much debt that I cannot pay everything alone nor do I intend to. All of this has led me to believe that he has never loved me. I am so hurt, I'm angry, I'm disappointed, and disgusted by his behavior. Our finances have been tied together all these years so when he took all the money he took mine too and we have a mortgage that I can't pay on my own. He has screwed me royally and despite his cheating still finds a way to blame me. I'm starting to see that there were issues that I overlooked because I love him. I'm struggling to make ends meet in this pandemic. I can't get in to see my doctor for STD testing because of the pandemic also. I feel so betrayed. I just needed somewhere to let it all out. My family wants me to just be over it and don't give me space to work through it all. Thanks for reading.