Normal sex life and swollen vagina

Hello ladies I’m starting to worry I will never have a normal sex life. My vagina is normally swollen and painful after sex or being fingered. I’m always red and puffy and inflamed. I am clean of everything and have been checked barely a month ago and have a committed relationship with my boyfriend. I have been told nothing is wrong with me. I’ve only have less than 10 times but still. I feel like I’m not normal and this isn’t something I, at 20 years d want to discuss with my mother.