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I think you should talk to your dr about post part in anxiety. Its a thing! Had I known about it with my first I would’ve definitely spoke to someone. Some of that is normal behaviour, but the fact you literally are causing yourself physical symptoms from worry are not. Just bring it up to them & they can find ways to help you & cope! You’re not alone, a lot of people go through this
Normal first time mom feelings or am I maybe not ok?
Maybe this is just part of being a fist time mom, but either way I just feel like I need to talk it out, even anonymously.
I don’t think I’m ok, but like I said maybe it’s just being a first time mom.
Our daughter is 5 months old. I absolutely LOVE being a mom and my husband is a very involved father. He does sleep very hard so I do have to wake him up if I need him to help, but he does get up.
Since she was born, if she cries at night I HAVE to be the one that gets her. If my husband was up and she would still cry, I’d still hover or lay there awake bc I felt anxious. It’s progressively gotten worse. Now, it makes me feel physically sick if shes crying hard and I’m not the one that has her.
She started sleeping in her crib at 6 weeks. Even if I had my husband get up, I would still hover outside the nursery until she stopped crying or again, lay awake until he came back. It just felt easier to always get up myself bc then I KNEW she was ok. My husband asks me to wake him so he can take his turn/help but I rarely do.
These last 3 weeks have been the worst for me and I don’t know why. My daughter started sleeping through the night which is amazing, but I’m sleeping even less. I wake up almost every other hour to look at the monitor or check on her, bc I’m terrified she’s not breathing. If she still had an occasional night she’s up, I go to her and don’t ask my husband too, bc I need to know she’s fine.
During the day when it’s her normal fussy “I’m hungry/tired/need changed” cry it’s not that bad for me. It’s only when she’s extremely upset that I need to have her, or at night when she’s also crying extremely hard.
This last week I have felt on the verge of bawling a lot and I am not a crier. I know it’s bc I’m exhausted but I just don’t know what to do.
Like I said maybe this is just a first time mom thing and I’ll get over it, but I just needed to talk it out.
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I'm a first time mom to a 9 month old baby boy. I felt the exact same way and still do most of the time. I have an amazingly helpful husband and support system. I just would rather do it myself most of the time. He plays with and gets "dad time", but nighttime stuff is all me. He started sleeping in his crib at 6 months and I couldn't sleep for over a week. It was rough. I was just so worried. And it still physically hurts me to hear him cry " for real". I talked to my OB and she diagnosed me with post partum anxiety and said some anxiety is normal, but that if it's interfering with my normal life, it's a problem. I still feel like I'm living a normal life. But she did stress the importance of sleep. She recommended melatonin and that helped some. It gets easier, but you're a mom now, I don't think you'll ever be the same as you were.
I understand where you’re coming from entirely and I think it’s normal to a degree. If my daughter is crying/screaming for something I feel responsible and like i HAVE to be the one to fix it, even though my boyfriend says he’ll do it. It just makes me feel better to be the one to ‘fix the problem’ I don’t really feel anxious though, and it sounds like you may have a touch of post partum anxiety, reach out to your doctor who should be able to help. I hope you feel better soon 💕
Calm your doctor. It sounds like you have postpartum anxiety. I have it and I feel a lot of what you experiencing. I’m not a doctor and I don’t know you but you should definitely check in with your doctor! There is help available. Don’t leave it untreated it can lead to depression. It will get better Mama❤️
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