Husband adjusting issue

Hi ladies, just posting for a bit of advice really. I have a 16 month old with my husband and we’ve just found out we are expecting a second. There have been many times where I felt as though he wishes he wasn’t stuck in this Dad role or chaotic family life that we now have. He has no Dad friends. His only friends are living bachelor-like lives. He spends most nights online gaming with friends, occasionally drinking a bit too much. He’s made it pretty clear that he wasn’t even sure that he wanted a second child and didn’t take the news well at all. In fact he’s chosen to ignore the fact that I even had a positive test. I told him he can talk to me about anything he is feeling but like a typical bloke he’s bottling it all and he gets defensive when I ask him open ended questions.

Anyway, due to working from home around a toddler, I didn’t finish until 9:45pm this evening. I was knackered, and it was meant to be date night (film and sofa cuddles whilst little one sleeps). I asked if it would be ok to postpone to the weekend for quality time and he said fine but wanted sex now. I said I was tired, but ok. Whilst in bed I was too tired to get in the right frame of mind and he could tell. Started sulking and went downstairs to join a game with his friends.

It was just us for 8 years before we had a baby. I feel that family life is chaotic but it’s the best kind of chaos and there is so much love, yes it’s hard..,, but it’s worth it. I feel like my husband doesn’t have any friends that are Dads that he can relate too and he’s stuck in a circle where he is the odd one out. He doesn’t get to lay in anymore, he doesn’t get to play his games all day anymore, he doesn’t get to eat or sleep in peace.... He doesn’t sex as often because his wife (me) is always tired. I feel a massive EJECT button on the horizon and I’m hoping someone can share some words of wisdom ❤️