Lying In Law

My in law is very intrusive. As a matter of fact, my husband's siblings are nosey, gossipy Christians. However, one of them is very into my business with my husband. He stayed with us (he was staying with my husband a little before we got married) but once we got married he did not leave.

We argue because my husband told me a few lies and etc. My in law did not like this because my husband works so the arguing bothered him. He called his dad in another country and told him about our arguments and blames my husband's drinking/smoking on me. (The stress, he has never seen my husband like this).

So something goes missing in the house and my In-Law says he knows I stole it. My husband tells him he will look for it and he does not believe I did anything. But my in-law insists because he said Americans are thieves. My husband family is Caribbean. We are same race, different cultures.

The next day I confront my husband about what is going on and my in law is in the house, hears us and mocks me to my husband calling me a thief and a liar which of course he tells the rest of his family (on the phone, my husband was not there). Now his side of the family thinks I am a thief, nosey and cannot be trusted with money.

This in law also calls me ugly and makes fun of the fact that I am not a nurse. ( I went to nursing school but did not finish). My husband and I share a child. I have no idea why this dude is so crazy. He has kids of his own and a baby mama in his country to be concerned about.

I do not even know what was stolen and I would never steal from anyone? I feel very uncomfortable. My husband does not believe me when I say his brother speaks bad of me and he says nobody in his family speaks ill of me. He claims the convo between him and his brother never happened and in fact I overheard a convo I wasn't supposed to hear. The brother was talking about something being stolen from his job. So why are they searching through the house?

I feel very uncomfortable around my inlaws. I try to stay away from them. I do not call to speak to them, go over their houses and I do not want to visit my husband's country to see his parents.