So my SO’s only niece had her first birthday the 2nd. They had a very small get together which we went too, they tell us that they are going to throw a bigger party at a park on the 11th and when I mean bigger I’m talking like 40-50 people!.

After we left I told my SO I didn’t feel comfortable going to that party with our kids with this virus and so many people going; he said if I didn’t go he was still gonna take them anyways that I can stay home with our 7.5 month old!. It actually started an argument at home because I was highly against it! Anyways time goes by and he’s still saying he gonna take them, that’s it’s at a park that’s open and what not; I still said I didn’t want them to go.

Yesterday we got word that the park party was canceled, that they will do a drive by instead. When my SO told me I said “good, even if it’s at a park it’s not smart to have our kids around a bunch of people”, he said “it doesn’t matter, if you’re gonna get it you’re gonna get it, no one can stop it”. I told him “we can at least try and prevent the spread by staying home, and staying away from that many people!”.

He just rolled his eyes, then I said “she already had her birthday get together, having a second one with that many people is just dumb right now”. He called me an asshole and walked away... I’m in the medical field I have seen first hand whats it’s like for people to go through that sickness, I quit recently because of it.

I feel bad yes but having a party during this time I feel is selfish, the mom of this girl is mostly doing it to prove how much her kid is loved. Which is great and all but to me its not worth getting sick over... does that really make me an asshole?

Also to add I haven’t take my kids to the store since this all started, but maybe 1 time when I absolutely had too, otherwise if we want to go together they stay with their grandma, or one of us goes alone that’s it.