advice about gender reveal

okay, so since i found out i was pregnant (for the first time) i’ve kind of (not dead set on) wanted to do a gender reveal party. I just got my blood drawn for the MaterniT 21 plus test a couple days ago which tests for down syndrome and some other abnormalities as well as being able to find out the gender!! (i will be 13 weeks on monday). anyways, my boyfriend hasn’t really been to keen on the idea of a gender reveal party. i asked him if we could at least talk about it and see where each other is coming from. we just sat down and talked about it and he explained to me that he doesn’t really want to because none of his family lives in the town we live in. they all live 10+ hours away, but all of my family lives here. so he said he would feel bad that none of his family would be there (they’re older and don’t travel much). i understand where he’s coming from because earlier i said i wouldn’t want to drive to his hometown to do the baby shower because none of my family would come. he doesn’t want to be a part of the baby shower, we both agree it should be an only girls thing, just personal opinion guys don’t like that stuff lol. but my question is, do you think where he’s coming from is valid? my mom told me “you only have your first baby once” but i kind of agree with my husband and don’t really mind finding out and telling everyone instead. also, what are some ways we could do a reveal with just the two of us and tell our family afterwards? thanks in advance