How TF Do I move on???

Question

Dunno where to start, getting out of a 10 year relation but can’t stop thinking about them??? 🤯 I’ve tried meeting new people, getting out more.. but nothing is shaking these thoughts I wish I can just forget and move on but I can’t stop having the dreams and questioning myself “ what if “ Any advice

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I got out of an 8 1/2 year relationship. The only thing that got me through it and him pleading for a year to get back together is by spending all that time and energy with friends instead. I had to make new ones because I moved out of our house and with my parents for a year, it was hard but it worked. It has been 5 years since we broke up and I still think of him probably every day because we had built up so many memories over the years. It’s okay to miss him, just when that is happening simultaneously remember why it ended. It reassures your brain of why this is the way it is. You’ll feel at peace someday when you find someone that truly makes you feel loved, and you have that feeling back for them. Just gotta be patient for now. Also, whatever you do, do NOT hang out with him when he asks you to. You’ll get sucked back in so quickly!

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Scientifically the best way to get over someone is whenever you think about them you have to force yourself to think of something about them that is bad or something they did that hurt you. Then you start to only associate them with bad memories which helps you move on

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As someone who went with the “what if” it never works out, even after being with them for 4 years, I wasted more time on the “what if” aspect and moving on was nice but also focusing on myself was even nicer!
Distract yourself and if it didn’t work out there’s a good reason for it, good luck to you!

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give it some time. Also try your best not to dwell on "what ifs" because they don't exist. That may be a lesson you learn the hard way. otherwise focus on you and your self growth

How TF Do I move on???

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