Breakup...

How do you know when you still need closure ?

My last relationship ended very badly. I came out as bisexual and let’s just say, my mother did not approve. I broke up with my gf because of it. This was about 3 years ago. It didn’t bother me as much until now. Now I’m hurting all over again. We couldn’t even talk things out back then without having a screaming match that included the both of us sobbing. We were just hurt and we couldn’t understand each other.

I’m thinking about her more and more and I’m not sure why. I feel like I should talk to her. Maybe find closure but I’m not sure what that would entail or if it’s even a good idea. I’m also in a two year relationship. If we decide to meet up and talk, should I tell him? Or is this something I should figure out on my own?

I never said she owed me anything! I said “If we decide...” which obviously means if she agrees to speak to me. She is allowed to say no. I’ve never needed closure in any of my other relationships, but the way things ended with her is just eating me up and I’m not sure what to do