Am I being too sensitive?

Husband and I have been married for 6 years, together for 11. We have three kids together, five and under. His hobby is fixing old 80’s pick up trucks.

He works and I’m a SAHM. I’m a SAHM due to the fact that our oldest has severe autism and has therapy six hours a day five days a week and I need to drive him to all of his appointments. We agreed on this after our second child was born.

My husband works five days a week. Usually 5am-5pm and when he gets off he doesn’t even come home anymore he goes straight to his friends house every single day to work on trucks. He maintains that he works and my job is SAHM so he gets to go have fun whenever he wants but I have to stay with the kids because it’s my job. If I say anything about it he screams at me that I just want him to be a prisoner in our house and it’s boring at home and he needs to be doing something or he “gets grumpy”. I don’t go anywhere with friends, I’m with my kids every second of everyday and I love it but it’s lonely sometimes.

Today we had planned to take the kids to the creek to play for the day and he told me this morning he was going to his friends to get “his truck ready”. Three hours later he’s not home and his phone is off. I call his friends wife who I’m friends with and she says he’s there and working on trucks. Ladies, he doesn’t come home until 8 hours later, claims his phone died and that he thought I didn’t want to go to the mountains anymore? So he just stayed at his friends. I’m furious he pulled that but I’m not trying to make a scene infront of our kids. So I let it go, make dinner, he eats, I get the kids ready for bed and put them to bed for the night (alone of course he never ever helps do that.)

When I’m done with putting the kids to bed I come into the kitchen and he asks what temperature I cooked the chicken for dinner at? I told him (in an annoyed tone because I knew where he was going with it) and he tells me I over cooked it so next time I should lower the temperature so it’s not “tough”. Now listen, I’m not sensitive. I’m not the greatest cook in the world but I’ve gotten so much better. This comment isolated wouldn’t annoy me but to have the audacity to say this to me after what he pulled today?! I just yelled REALLY And walked away. He follows me into our room and screams that this Is why he can’t ever talk to me because I blow everything up and make everything into a fight. He also says I don’t know shipt about cooking so he thought I would like the “helpful comment”. He then storms off and goes BACK TO HIS FRIENDS HOUSE. I’m not sitting home alone again as usual. I feel like at this point I’m done. My kids don’t deserve a mom who’s always sad and let down and they don’t deserve an absent father. Am I being too sensitive? What would you do in my situation?