Husband and I made an agreement..

He likes his freedom.. And he particularly likes going over to his friends..

So we agreed that in the first couple of months after birth, if he takes over all household chores (except for folding laundry)

He'll be able to go whenever he wants to go out with/to his friends 😅

It comes down to "if everything is done, he can leave as he pleases, but he can't go if it's not done.. If he wants to go, he just needs to finish the chores 😅"

It's a compromise because he wants to go out all the time before the baby is born because he feels like he won't be able to after the baby is born..

I don't want him being out much until the baby is born because I'll need his support..

Also I won't have to worry about the household while recovering from childbirth and I'll be able to sleep with the baby whenever I feel like it.. And the baby will be too small to realize dad's out often anyways.. Time with dad will always just be quality time since he can't change his diaper (he has a nose-throat issue) and since we're planning on exclusively breastfeeding he won't be able to feed him either..

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@Sarah it's not like he won't be home, he just won't be able to help much with the baby anyways..

It's just that he wanted to be out alot before the baby is born because "he couldn't go out much afterwards"

It gave me a bit of anxiety so I told him that if he takes care of the household after the baby is born he can go out whenever he wants to, that doesn't mean he'll be out all the time, just that I won't have to bother with the household and he can go out when he wants to.

The time he spends with the baby will be all quality time because he can't feed or change him anyways.

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@Alexis

Sorry, I thought I mentioned..

He can't do diapers because he has an issue with his nose/throat..

The thing is that if he smells something bad he gets a terrible gag reflex, can't breathe and pukes, he needs to see a specialist for it but so far with the covid isn't treated as a priority since he's been having it for forever.. He already went to a specialist once and they basically dismissed him without investigating 🙄

So he thought nobody could help him but now our new physician referred him to another specialist..

In meanwhile he's an amazing indicator for food being good or bad 🤣

It's an actual issue either way.. Not just man being sensitive so I don't want to force him claiming he's the dad and should do diapers anyways...