have y'all ever been in a "kinda" abusive relationship

what i mean by this is we were between 17-20 and a lot of shit was going on in our shitty childhoods, he didn't do it everyday or beat me or anything so that's why i said kinda.. throughout those years sometimes there would be a fight and he would grab me hard or push me/choke me and hasn't done anything since 2018. Now his life and mental health is in a way better place and i know he wouldnt do it again based on what he's said and shown me .. but did y'all ever go through this and the bf/ex ended up changing ??