Waiting the 6 weeks?

Hi ladies,

My husband and I are going out of town without the baby tonight and we both are very excited to get back to having sex. I read some places to wait 4 weeks and some say 6, some say there’s not a specific time it’s just when you’re ready. I’m 5 weeks and one day into the wait. I read that if your bleeding is pretty much done and not bright red and you feel ready then you can have sex. Is this true? Did any of you ladies have sex before your 6 week appointment, how did it go? Will it be okay as long as we use a condom? If we can’t have actual sex, Can he finger me?

If you’re going to be rude please don’t even answer. I’m a first time mom and I’ve never been through this before.