Stay at home moms, do you expect your SO to help after work?

I feel like he doesn’t appreciate me. I deep cleaned our room and bought new stuff for it, but all he say was how he couldn’t lay on the bed because of my “shit” because I wasn’t done cleaning. He told me it seems like our son (10 months) is too much for me to handle because I got overwhelmed when he kept screaming. I’m in college and am really drowning in school work. But I can’t catch up unless it’s 11pm when our son is asleep or my so will roll his eyes and huff and puff at me for needing to do finals. I don’t know anymore. Any input accepted