Is My Friend A Good Friend?

For reference we’re both 19, so you’d think she (and me maybe!) would be mature but apparently not. Also, I absolutely HATE cutting people out of my life and I don’t think she’s done anything bad enough to warrant that so don’t tell me to drop her!

I pretty much get along with everyone, my girlfriends are so lovely and we hang all the time and I can’t even remember the last time I got into ‘drama’ with someone...maybe when I was 14? My friends are all very unproblematic, except one girl. We’ll call her ‘Olivia’.

Olivia and I have been friends since we were 16, and have a lot in common. Our sense of humour and music taste is identical basically and we do the same degree at uni so see each other a lot.

The thing about Olivia is, she has a VERY short temper. And when you make her mad, she is happy to cut anyone off.

Sorry if this offends anyone, but we laugh a lot at people who do dances on tik tok. She did one and I was like “omg did you post that!” Which wasn’t the nicest thing to say, she said “no, but what if I did?” I apologised for offending her, then she blocked me for 2 months...it was the weirdest situation.

She’s done this to a couple people in our group. I’ve stuck by her side through her sometimes toxic traits...but I’ve come to find a LOT of people I’m friends with really don’t like her. To the point where I have to coordinate who I invite to things to avoid people getting upset because of her presence. Some of my friends have had parties and straight up leave her out, which I don’t agree with but I guess no one is obligated to invite people they don’t like.

We’re also friends with a guy named ‘Jake’ - literally the nicest guy, so respectful and I can’t say anything bad about him. She randomly went on a rant about how ‘egotistical’ he is and how much she hates him? I just wrote back “I really like him, hes always been a nice guy” and left it at that. If she’s saying that about our friend...imagine what she’s saying about me? Especially when we’ve had ‘beef’...

But I am always there for her. She rants to me everyday about her problems and I’m always happy to give advice and listen to her.

Today I got pretty upset about my dad, sent a snap of me crying with a kind of funny caption about it like we always do (when she does this, we laugh but I always ask what’s up and help her) but she STRAIGHT UP left me on read?? And then sent a bunch of random snaps of her going on about something unrelated.

I don’t know...I’m starting to see why the others don’t like her but also not sure if I’m overreacting

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