Mixed mamas- hair help???

My LO is mixed, black and white. Neither SO or I know what to do with his hair because it’s so different than both of ours.

I used to be able to put in some leave in conditioner and finger curl it but now that it’s longer, I’m noticing a lot more breakage and dryness than there used to be. I wash his hair once a week using alaffia shea shampoo, condition with the Shea conditioner, and then use honest leave in conditioner.

I use the leave in conditioner daily, and then finger curl.

However, an hour later, this is what his hair looks like

I don’t mind the craziness, I actually LOVE his crazy curls. I’m more worried about the dryness and breakage and wondering what I could do to help prevent that. SO’s sister complained the other day that we obviously “do nothing” with his hair 🤦‍♀️ which isn’t true at all. He’s very sensitive to a lot of products so I prefer not to try adult products yet.

ETA - hes 1, already went through his bald stage, it was growing back in really nicely and is experiencing breakage leading to bald spots now, not actual loss