Secret baby shower! 👶🏼

so a few weeks back a friend messaged me and asked if I wanted to hang out on a specific day coming up. I said sure and didn’t think too much of it, until I was holding my partners phone for him about a week later and she messaged him about the same date. I didn’t open their messages but I asked him what that was about and he said oh just planning a games night as we haven’t all caught up for a while (she used to come over quite regularly and we’d all play games etc) I sort of didn’t believe it but went with it. Anyways our baby is due in about 4 1/2 weeks and I had an odd feeling they were planning a baby shower, which I’ve actually said from the start that I do not want one. I’ve told him this and her this as she asked me months ago if she could throw a gender reveal and baby shower for us and I said no please don’t. The reason being, we were due to have a gender reveal/ baby shower in our last pregnancy and ended up miscarrying days before the reveal. I just don’t want anything the same this time around, even though yes we are nearly at the end and everything is fine, I honestly do not want a baby shower. I asked my partner yesterday to just tell me if that’s what’s happening this weekend and he smiled and laughed and kept telling me no. Such a bad liar. I know I shouldn’t have but I had a sneaky look at their messages this morning annnnnd they’ve planned a baby shower and it’s this weekend. I don’t want to seem ungrateful because yes it’s so thoughtful of them but I feel really uncomfortable about that and I don’t want one! I hate being the centre of attention!

What am I meant to do? Do I just suck it up and go and be grateful that they wanted to do something nice for me which I know they do, or should I tell them I know and it’s actually making me really anxious and I’d rather they didn’t? 🤍