My husband and I have been trying for 4 years and I had a miscarriage about 3 years ago.

None of our family knows. It's not exactly something you just blurt out at Thanksgiving.

My family is not the close, talk about our problems, kind of family. We are not on bad terms, by all means, but we just didn't grow up talking about our problems or being comforted when we did. My mom is a little better with all that now, but any time she hugs me now, I feel so weird about it. It's just not normal for us.

Anyways, I just want them to know. I don't want to have to sit down and have a heart to heart or get pittied. I just want them to know, so they can know what's going on and back off a little about when we are going to have kids.

I'm not as worried about my husband's family. They are all super close. I'm sure my husband could just mention it to his mom and she would spread the word. That's all I need.