Labels

So I’m pan... or bi? I prefer to just use queer, but some people take it as lesbian or tell me that I can’t identify with a slur and should be kicked from the community or say I’m homophobic since I’m currently in a heterosexual relationship(he knows) and it causes a lot of problems. So I say pan because I am, or at least I WAS, comfortable with the label but then I put “pan🏳️‍🌈” in my insta bio and suddenly a bunch of anti-pan accounts started following me and sometimes I’d just get sent posts by anti-pan accounts from random people and now I’m uncomfortable with pan and I’m uncomfortable with bi and I’m uncomfortable with queer and I want to still show pride but idk how to do that without feeling like something is wrong...