He doesn’t say it but he doesn’t want to be with me

I don’t have hope anymore for this marriage. Without saying it my husband says “we’re not meant” “you and me don’t know how to talk” “you don’t know how to leave me alone” “I don’t give a fuck” “you need to figure something out” “I can’t stand you” “your only going to get hurt” “I’m only going to get hurt” “I’m scared for my future” “you do things and than don’t do things”.

We’ve been married 7 years. He’s avoidant attachment and I’m anxious attachment. He’s very hot and cold, he’ll snap at me and be utterly disrespectful. Overprotective and private.

When he’s hot, he’s loving, generous, thoughtful, kind, he smiles a lot and laughs a lot, he jokes a lot too.

This must be a trauma bond, intermittent reinforcement.

We’ve always wanted kids and have talked about it and baby names, In July we made it happen. I’m pregnant now and I don’t think he wants to be with me. I know I wouldn’t be the first to be a single mom. But I don’t even think he’ll help me financially. He doesn’t file taxes and his business is only cash money. I honestly think he’s going to disappear.

Ever since we found out I’m pregnant he’s been avoiding me and not talking to me. Pushing me away. I’ve been praying for him for his heart his thoughts and I’ve been rebuking the enemy.

I don’t want to break down and cry. I have parents who would have me of course. I have a job that doesn’t pay enough to support myself financially, unless I’m underestimating myself. I love being independent having my own kitchen and space.

Please help I need advice.