Mil (long)

How do you guys deal with being in your home when your mil comes to visit and your husband is a complete mamas boy and is blinded by her. Theres been several stories about us. But one time she raised her voice at me with additude and I didn't even say anything wrong. All I said was he is with our son calming him down and he will be right down. And she said that he has to be down here because the family is going to make an announcement. I said that he will be right down and his dad (her ex husband) wasn't going to make it without him. And she kept arguing with me. I told her I'd go get him in a little while. She just kept repeating the same thing. I tried not to explode. I let him know month after because he gets sensitive about his mom. He said I should feel honored because she's comfortable enough to talk to me normally and thats how she is. Nope. I told him that if that's the way you guys allow her to talk to you guys fine, but not me. He got mad at that. He gets mad when I say something normal like, your mom listens to this guy right ? He said I should never speak of his mom and keep her name out of my mouth. I honestly told him that if it has to do with the conversation and I'm not even saying anything negative. I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm ranting on but she's a pain and has done little sneaky things and I feel like she just can't let go of her son who is almost 40. I understand thats her baby but its to where his sister even says their relationship has always been strange. Anyways, how do you guys deal with a mil when they come and visit or you visit ?

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I was always cordial with her. Even though she blamed me for everything after I married my husband. (We had been together 6.5 years before we got married and she had zero issues with me before the wedding.) When my son was around 1 there was a disagreement about my son going to a funeral for someone we didn't know. It was more of a show your son off thing than pay your respects. I told my husband it was time to put his foot down or I would. After that it was constant drama from her. I still was nice. I made all the plans, I sent cards, pictures, etc. She talked about my family. That was it. That was 2 years ago and I haven't spoken to her since. She hasn't seen my son or met my daughter. She blames me, even tho I'm the one who had my husband send pictures and check in. My husband no longer speaks to her either since she couldn't bother to reach out for our son's birthday last year.I would have a serious talk with your husband. Explain that you understand she is his mother, you're not trying to be disrespectful but something needs to change. Spell everything out, with examples. Be calm about it, so he doesn't feel like you're attacking his mom. (If that makes sense. Lol)