If you’ve been through anything similar I would appreciate any advice we can get. Also, this will probably be kind of long.

So, my fiancé’s sons mom, has a history of addiction, but is supposedly “clean” and on the rehabilitation drug, Suboxone, several other meds for bipolar, anxiety etc, and drinks like a fish. She has been accused several times over the years of doing her drug of choice, each time we have ordered a drug test to be done and they come back clean. Someone told us that she has someone that helps her out at the place she goes to get her drug test. She refuses to go get a supervised drug test and will not let one of us ride with her or meet her anywhere, and she refuses to go to a testing place of our choice. Her son comes home smelling strongly of smoke every week. She has been kicked out of her boyfriends one bedroom apartment several times this year, and we have had to come get the boy because they were without anywhere to stay. He has been absent from school because he could not wake her up in the mornings (from his mouth, he is 10 yo) I am afraid that we do not have enough of a case against her to take her to court and get majority or full custody. And while it would be worth every penny to know he is safe and in a stable environment, we do not have the money to throw away if it were end up for nothing. Does anyone have any advice? I’ve been keeping a journal of everything that happens day by day, and we have people that say they will be character witnesses. But I will also add, that when we go to court, her boyfriend is friends with like “THE lawyer” to be friends with where we are from. So our case would have to be rock solid. He’s not necessarily a crooked lawyer, but if he shows up for you, most judges know him and will side with him because of who he is.

Again any advice is welcome, and thank you if you read all of that. There is a lot more that’s happened, but I’d be here typing forever.