Do I Break Up With Him..?

I’m just a young girl really seeking the advice of wise older women...I don’t like telling anyone in my life about any issues with my relationship cause I think it just causes more issues to have everyone know your shit so that’s why I’m here!!

I’m 19, my boyfriend is 20. We’ve been together for 3 and a half years. I’ve recently been feeling like he hasn’t been putting in a lot of effort, and I’ve followed a little bit because it’s hard putting in effort with little return.

Like we hang out 24/7, but even though we’re together it’s usually just him watching YouTube or playing video games while I’m on my phone. I just feel disconnected a bit...like we haven’t actually spent QUALITY time together.

My love language is also acts of service and words of affirmation, and I feel like he basically does nothing for him...I do EVERYTHING for this guy. He asks me to make him breakfast, done. Get the charger from upstairs, you got it. But it feels like I can barley get him to do anything for me, it’s like a chore.

We’ve had a BIG weekend with a bunch of birthdays and we had lots of fun, but we’re exhausted. I went home and it’s kind of been eating at me, so I called him and he was all sleepy from a nap and I suggested we go on a date this week and he was pretty underwhelmed just like “we’ll work it out later”. Then I pretty much expressed what I’ve written, I said I feel disconnected and like neither of us are really doing 100% for our relationship and I just got nothing back. Just like “yeah” and “mmhm” in sleepy voice.

I reiterated I want to work things out and be with him, obviously. Then my sister called and he said he was going back to napping so I haven’t really continued the conversation since then.

I don’t want to be rash and just break up with him...I’ve been with him since I was 16. I just want that feeling again that a lot of you ladies talk about on here. I’ll be honest, I haven’t taken my antidepressants in a few days which could be why I’m thinking about this so much and analysing everything but who knows.

I just want to feel completely and totally loved and I’m not too sure what to do :(