Hi ladies,

My mother in law is babysitting my 19 month old son while me and my husband are at work. I keep my sons hair long and have been letting it grown out to do a man bun.

My mother in law, without asking us or even saying a word decided to cut my sons hair super super short. And it’s all choppy and uneven and too short for my liking. She Litterally cut 3 inches off! His hair was almost long enough to do a man bun.

She is doesn’t understand how this upset me or hurt me and would let me even speak and cut me off when i asked her about it and she got all defensive and yelling that oh “I did it for him, it was too long and coming in his eyes and I was just trying to help. It will grow back!”. I had to cut the conversation because she was defensive and wouldn’t let me say anything and I try soo hard to be polite and respectful to my in-laws but I feel like cause I don’t say anything g when they do things I don’t like, she took advantage and did whatever she wanted. And to me that isn’t help cause I didn’t need to cut his hair.

I know it may sound petty to some but I feel like it’s undermining my parenting and wishes die my child. I know my husband talked to her about it amd told her it’s wrong and all but I can’t help but be soo angry about it. I just can’t let it go.

Plus I wasn’t even there to see him get his hair cut, and let alone do it myself. He has only ever had 2 haircuts in his life and I’ve only trimmed his bangs now and then, cause he actually has gorgeous thick slightly curly hair.

I’m very upset that she did that and now everytime I look at my son it’s a reminder of my mother in law chopping off my sons hair. I litterally feel like crying, but am trying not to be petty.

Plus to top things off, my husband didn’t handle it well with me cause he know how it’s one of those things that is important to me and how I like our sons hair long. So we ended up in an argument and he doesn’t want to address it yet so he has no idea of how it’s affected me and upset me other than what he assumed. So because of his mother’s actions, now my husband and I aren’t talking.

What would you do? How would you feel about the whole situation?

This is pretty much what she did but all choppy and uneven. I hate the cut.