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Don't stress. I went for WEEKS without revealing gender just because I didn't want to tell people we're having a boy.The disappointment might last for a while. Mine did. I cried daily. And for a while I just stopped being excited at all.BUT, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Chances are, in a few weeks you'll find your excitement again. So just be patient with yourself and give yourself time.If you feel concerned about your mental state or if you think you have been down too long, have a talk with your doctor.Otherwise, feel what you feel, mama. Don't let anyone tell you you're wrong for your feelings. And trust that you'll get there. Because you will.
Gender letdown...opinions?
Found out that we're expecting a girl. Problem is I was wanting a boy. Badly. I cried when we found out and was hoping she just made a mistake. I've been a little bitter all day and don't want to tell people that she is a girl yet. Don't get me wrong, I am blessed to have this baby and will love her all the same, I'm just wondering if any other mama's are/were disappointed? It's like I spent 20 weeks imagining this perfect boy and is hard to let that go and start dreaming of my princess. How long did it take you to get excited if you were let down? I don't want this feeling to last the rest of my pregnancy like some websites say. Just making sure I'm not the only one!
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Sn
I promise you, it doesn't last forever. The closer you get to having her in your arms, the less you will care. But for now, just let yourself feel however you feel. Wallow as long as you need. It's okay to be disappointed. And you don't have to try to feel any differently.
Sa
The only good thing about my girl right now is clothes. I picked a few out to see if that would cheer me up but sadly I'm back to being sad. At least I know so many women have gone through the same process and I hope I get excited about her soon. I'd love to share in the happiness I know friends and family will feel. They've been wanting a girl so they'll be overjoyed.
I just found out we are having our third boy not 20 min ago. And as much as I hate myself for it right now, I am disappointed, I was really hoping I'd get my girl since this is probably our last. I'm hoping the feeling passes quickly because I don't like it and I'm really disappointed in myself for feeling this way.
No, I wanted a boy and I would have cried if it came out to be another girl mainly because my daughters hair is so long and thick that it 4 hours to wash, detangle, blow dry, and style. I couldn't imagine having to do two little girls hair each week. So yeah I would have been disappointed.
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she is 5 years old.
Ja
how old is she? if you can afford it and arent against it a brazilion blowout may help. i is a smoothing treatment but not a relaxer. it would make her hair easier to straight iron. its a little pricey but everyone i know swears by th
Thats kinda why i really didnt focus one one more than the other i think i want a boy and my first was a boy but we lost him.. Im hoping this will be a boy but im thinking either or will be great... I look up just as many girl names as boy names.. I think thats helping me consider that both would be great :)...
I think i was to scared I was gonna lose this baby to really think about gender disappointment...I did want a girl though, I could only come up with girl names and dreamed of a girl which is odd because all the way up to getting pregnant I wanted a boy and have wanted a boy for years, not sure what changed but was happy to find out I'm having a girl
I REALLY wanted a boy her dad wanted a girl ! I was told she was a HE for Weeks & Then at my gender scan it was a girl ! I made them recheck & lost all excitment !! They gave me a picture & a cd of our scan & i threw it at her dad ! I cried in the car & his whole family was wanting a girl so they LOVED to rub it in my face with the "told you !" "My pretty princess" etc & i HATED it until i went shopping for the first time with my mom & bought $500 worth of ADORABLE clothing, blankets, socks, head bands, etc ! THEN & ONLY THEN did i get excited !! It will pass ! But i couldnt imagine having 2 girls then ANOTHER girl ! I want a BOY soo badly that i would prolly go bat shit crazy if i have another girl ! Her hair is too much, her attitude is too much(Main Issue!!!! Shes JUST LIKE ME) shes super clingy & needy, & i just NEED a boy ! Lol
As
Thank you ! Its rough & i had a chemical last month but i just keep the faith that it will happen when its GODS timing !! I really want a boy & id be done nomore kids but honestly i would be super happy with just a happy healthy baby at this point !!
Ol
I want one of both so badly! If I could guarantee that we'd get a boy and a girl, I might consider two kids instead of one! Also, I am so sorry for your loss, I could never imagine how hard that'd be.
As
When i was pregnant with my second my MIL would rub my stomach saying it was a girl (i was 5 weeks) & kepting arguing with me about it being a girl when i would say i wanted a boy. Sadly it ended at 6 weeks but i like desperately want a boy ! I dont think i can mentally handle 2 girls 😂😂😂🙈
I'm not a mama yet but I think it's completely normal! People say "I'll be happy with whichever" all the time, but I think deep down inside everyone has a preference or a feeling of what gender it is, and when it doesn't turn out to be what you hoped/thought, of course it can be disappointing.
Ti
I honestly don't have a preference, but I also think it's totally normal to have a preference! Many many people do, y'all are not alone ☺️
Everyone is a little disappointed when you get the sex you didn't particularly lean towards. Totally normal. You just need some time to adjust. Think of all the stuff for your perfect daughter instead. Plus cute clothes for girls are easier to find (not that it's at all fair, but I'm just saying)
Ce
lol my son wore a little lion costume for a couple months like it was normal clothes. it was just so cute.
Ci
Dinosaurs is okay but sports and trucks on everything, like really? 😒 Girls have a variety of things but boys are always between those three! I actually found some animal footed onesies today and cried in the middle on Walmart (I bought 2, one fox and one puppy outfit) 😂
Ce
I had a hell of a time finding gender neutral clothes where I am.
I think you are super normal. Don't try to lose that image of a little boy. Just try to add the image of a little girl being with him. You have time. It's just not boy time yet. The news is still really new. It's not wrong go be disappointed. It's hard to change the thought of who we are so sure is in there.
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