Ovulation Fight

My husbands not feeling good but today is my ovulation and I of course have been obsessively talking and excited about it. We tried on the 3 high day’s before but he says he just can’t. 21 months trying and I feel I’m being selfish since he’s not feeling good abd last night complained it’s feeling like too much work- which some months I have to admit it does by this point but I’m just very upset and it led to a fight which isn’t fun for anyone. Anyone had anything similar happen? I do feel selfish but I am mentally so damn sick of trying and if I hear you get pregnant once you quit I went that route already not tracking or talking about it haha.