I'm annoyed!

I have (unfortunately) had a lot of doubts in this relationship. And I have spent soooo much time defending him and turning a blind eye to the red flags, forgiving him, and jumping back into his bed.

I am a very family oriented person. And I understand that not everyone is like that. He is always spending time with me and my family. But he never lets me be apart of anything surrounding his family. He says he isnt that close to them. But two seconds later I'm hearing about how this person (ie. His mom) watched his son for him or he picked this person (ie. His sister) up from work. Little things here and there.

We're at my parents at least once a month. Usually twice. I've known him for 8 years and we have been dating for 2 years. I have never met his mom. His sister. His brother. His grandma and grandpa. My entire family (those who are local) have met him face to face. I ask all the time if I can meet this person or that person. And I always get excuses. Like she doesn't like meeting new people. Or he's busy. I dont even know his mom's name. After 2 years I think its ridiculous. I said if we end up married, I'm not inviting anyone I haven't met to my wedding. And he was upset with me for saying that. I answered with why can't I just meet your family ? Excuses. Excuses. Excuses.

I honestly asked him if he was embarrassed of me. He insisted that wasn't the case and that he loves me. I told him I want to meet the people who love you. And he told me "maybe". I then asked if they even know i exist and he was like "yeah". And that was the end of the conversation.