Bad sex in relationship 🥺

I’ve been with my bf for a year now. Sex is ok but not great. Ok it’s barely ok. A little Good? Ok it’s bad. No man has ever made me orgasm while having sex. One came close but he finished before I did. Orally, on the other hand, has been my fave since that’s the only way my exes have made me orgasm. Well my current bf still hasn’t made me have a big O yet 😒 I have told him how he can but when he goes down on me, he’ll do it for not even a minute. We have sex after that and he always cums. He says it’s the best sex he’s ever had. Well.... I beg to differ. But it’s not that he doesn’t like it because he’s always told me he loves giving oral and he used to do it longer to me.

Today we were doing 69 because I thought he would go as long as I would giving him head, but he stopped like a minute or 2 in while I was still going and he was telling me to get on top of him. I did just to get it over with but after I told him that I have needs too and it’s not fair that he’s being selfish because that’s what it is. When it comes to sex, he only thinks about him finishing and it’s honestly making me so upset now. I love my bf and he’s great in every other aspect but idk how else to tell him. After telling him today, I couldn’t tell if he was upset because I bruised his ego or if he didn’t care. He made a little comment like “sorry I’m not that great” and went to sleep. I’m going to have a talk with him tomorrow about it but idk what to say to him anymore. I know people say life is too short for shitty sex but I love this man and I don’t want to get to the point where bad sex is a deal breaker.