Sister Declines Nanny Position.

Edit 2*** Thank you all for your opinions after seeing some of those post who were trying to be helpful I feel better I'm not at all mad at my sister or upset and as said only wish her the best of luck. I can't ever express how proud I am of her and my baby brother whose a Marine, we've come from abusive homes, and moved around in foster cares. I've seen my sister overcome so much in life and finally learn to be happy with herself and find the will to keep going.

Even though she isn't going to be my living nanny, she's always going to be my baby sister and I am always going to be right there for her.

Thank you all for your comments and views. It does open my eyes to me it was a great opportunity for my sister and even one I would've benefited from. But to others I suppose more of a joke or insult due to it not being enough money, or it being to much on a personal level to be considered a appropriate or comfort job to offer a family member.

Edit ***** total hours a week she would've worked would be 25hr a week. Before anyone else comments on how unfair I am offering 300 a week for her to watch my kids. Which for most nanny companies, daycare, it's becoming a requirement to be CPR Certified and State Certified in Child Care. Which she is neither.

That and she would've only been required to make 1 meal a day. An cleaning wasn't required. Nor is taking kids places a requirement.

I'd like to start off by saying that I am a bit upset with myself for being even a tiny bit upset at my sister. An I can't tell her this because I know she'll get mad at me for being even a tiny bit upset and hurt by her desicion. An holding it in just sucks and hurts becuase I feel myself dwelling on it.

My partner makes fair money, we are more than able to live off of his means and are able to meet our financial needs. With that said, I have thought of going back to work and would like to do so.

My sister and her girlfriend just broke up and she's now having to move back in with her old roommates. She's been looking for jobs and is attending online classes, and had to give up one of her pets which she asked me to take care of and I am doing so.

Becuase I am looking for a job and her as well, I talked with my partner and we both thought of her and how we could help each other out, by asking her to become our inhome Nanny. I am willing to pay her $300 a week for moving in and living with us for free. While also offering her to use my laptop for her online college courses, since she was using her now ex girlfriend for her course work. An is just wanting me to let her have / use my laptop. My partner and I even offered to buy parts and fix up her Jeep for her so she'd have a vehicle to use. She would get her own room away from the rest of us. We have a 2nd livingroom 2 big closets and a fireplace that we said she could have as her room / space.

With the job I've applied for I would work morning shifts just like my partner and on weekends we would both be off work. Therefore able to give her that time to herself to do whatever she pleases. We also would take care of our own kids when home from work. I would make my kids breakfast before leaving for work at 8am and would make dinner when I arrive home shortly after 4:30.

Even though we've offered all this to her she's refused and told me she is applying for weekends sitter position and has applied to be a daycare worker at a few daycare facilities. An then said how she can't handle being around kids 24/7.

I suppose I feel a bit offended because she's willing to work with other children as a form of work, but she doesn't want to spend time with her only blood nephews. That and she still wants me to drive a hour away and take my laptop to her so she can continue doing her schooling. Because as of now she's having to walk to the library and do it from their computers.

I suppose this is a venting post... An I know it's most likely wrong of me to be upset by the fact she doesn't want to be our nanny. An I do completely understand that and I am not going to force her to do so or guilt trip her. I just wish that she could see how it does hurt that she would rather spend time around other children than her own family. An that we actually want her around as more than a nanny, but as family too. I'd love to go to the zoo with my family and sister, and to the pool. Along with movies and dinner. An I completely understand her life her choices, and I love her to death and am proud of her and how well she's done for herself so far. As said just a bit hurt and just needing to get it out so I stop dwelling on it.