In laws

This will be long and I'm venting. Just feeling like I could use a friend.

Unfortunately for me, most of my family is no longer living. The only family member I have left is my Mom, who is disabled (she has one leg, wheelchair bound, can't work) and survives off her disability checks.

My mother and father in law are really kind people, supportive and delighted to be grandparents. I know they love me, but it's just not the same as them being MY parents. I'm not trying to be selfish, I'm just being real with my feelings.

We live 2500 miles away from both our families.

I tragically lost my older brother 2.5 months ago (we were less than 2 years apart. He had issues but was my only sibling) My husband has two sisters.

His two sisters again are kind people, but they don't really make an effort to be a part of my life, have had very little involvement in my pregnancy and overall just sort of feel like strangers to me. We talk only at family events and often times it's the three of them bonding and reminiscing on memories before I joined the family. I try and reach out but it always just sort of feels one sided and superficial.

My husband's entire family intends on flying to our state about two weeks after I'm due, and as great as it'll be to have familiar faces around, I really just feel pressure to ...be a certain way. To mother a certain way. His sisters are bringing their boyfriends so it feels less about *helping* us and more about travel or having a good time or something. They haven't mentioned anything about what they'd do to "help" once baby is here. Just expressing excitement to hold them and love on them, which is great, but doesn't feel like... Support? Its giving me a bit of anxiety.

I'm just sad that my mom can't afford to come, nor would she have the means to travel/lodge alone even if I paid for it. I'm glad my husband has support, I guess I'm just jealous that I won't, too. I'm jealous he still has siblings and wish they cared about me like they did him. I wish I felt 100% comfortable around his family but it's just not the same.

I'm worried about setting boundaries with my MIL or her challenging me on our parenting since I am a FTM. I am worried about how they will perceive me if I ask them to clean my kitchen instead of hold my baby.

I'm just bumming! Anyone been through something similar or in a similar position?