Am I wrong ?

My bf works night shifts Mon-Fri and I work morning shifts so during the week we only see each other for about 30 minutes but he’s usually getting ready while I help him pack his lunch. I usually take an hour nap so that when he gets home (1am) I have some energy to stay up to spend an hour or two with him. I have to wake up at 7am to get ready for work but I think it’s worth spending some time with him. Well last night we watched a show and fell asleep cuddling at 3am. My body is used to waking up early so I woke up at 8:30 and couldn’t go back to sleep. So I walked my dog, fed him, washed the dishes, a show, and did my hair and makeup.

At noon I tried waking my boyfriend up because we got invited to my sister’s birthday dinner tonight and we have to leave before 5pm. He didn’t wanna wake up so I ran my fingers through his hair and kissed him and told him it’s past noon and time to wake up. He wasn’t budging so jokingly I was moving around in the bed to get him to wake up and kept kissing his arm. He finally “woke up” but kept closing his eyes. When I told him it was time to wake up again cause I wanted to spend some time with him before we had to get ready to leave and he started getting upset at me and telling me that he doesn’t care what time I woke up and are bored because how would I like it if he told me how long I could sleep for.

I told him he’s been sleeping for over 9 hours and that we still had to go grocery shopping and take our dog a bath and so I wanted to be sure we had some time to relax together. He turned over on his side and said “I could say fuck your sister’s dinner and just stay home. Leave me alone”. I wasn’t going off on him or shaking him all aggressively. And I usually go to work running on 4-6 hours of sleep for him yet he can’t wake up past noon for me? He’s always sleeping in and getting 9-11 hours of sleep so I just don’t understand why he can’t for 1 day just wake up for me. I’m always trying to make sure the house is clean or dinner is cooked so he has lunch and I always feel like I’m getting the short end of the stick. But whenever I tell him he takes it as I’m saying he does nothing around the house and then makes me feel like I’m not being appreciative of him. I’m just feeling conflicted and I do feel bad for waking him up but what time am I supposed to wait for him to wake up? 2pm? 3pm? That’s like the whole day has gone by.