Why doesn’t he want me😭

My husband will not get me going at all to have sex. It’s literally a struggle just to get him to “want” to have sex but when we get in the bedroom he doesn’t touch me or kiss me and I literally can’t remember the last time he ate me out but he always expects me to give him head. I only do it cause I know if I don’t it’s gonna cause an argument between us and we won’t end up having sex. Everytime I bring up not sucking his dick cause he doesn’t eat me out he always tells me he does but in reality he doesn’t. Like at all. Idk what to do😩