How to leave someone you love

*long confusing post I’m sorry*

Hi ladies, I need some help. My bf and I have been together 7 1/2 years. We’ve had ups and downs and I love him so much but I think it’s time to move on. I have never felt like a priority in this relationship. He has always put his hobby above me. Late nights, doing only things that really interest him.... etc.

He is not the nicest when you argue with him and talks down if you ask a question. I don’t like the way he treats his mom or sister. (They don’t get along with me all the time but that’s a different story) In his mind I think he feels he’s right and never wrong.

He can be incredibly sweet when he wants to and he does take care of me don’t get me wrong. He is one of the nicest guys when he’s around friends. Closed doors is different.

Friends of mine tell me the way he treats me is toxic, they notice how he looks down on me, how he talked to me, doesn’t appreciate me and they feel I deserve so much better. I normally blow it off and put it out of my mind. I haven’t noticed until I start reading similar stories on here.

He recently got in some trouble and I moved in with him to show I was here to support him and I was there for him. Recently I’ve been told that he’s lying to me about the situation and it’s blown my mind. I dont know what to believe. He can’t talk to me about said situation due to court.

I thought I was going to marry him but have recently heard from mutual l friend that when he asks if we’re getting married that he doesn’t believe in that paper stuff even tho we talked about it earlier this year.

It broke my heart. Ive been depressed and in a dark place. I feel numb and theirs a hole in my chest. I’ve recently been pulling away and he’s noticed : being too nice, sweet talking and buying me roses and cards. ( he hardly does this) When ever I go to talk to him he just tells me people are getting in my head and that he’s an asshole and no one likes him anymore and just makes me feel so guilty.

I’m honestly confused and don’t know what to do. Can I get some advice? How do you leave someone you love but know it’s best to move on. For your own sanity and mental health. I’m hardly eating and sleeping horribly. I know this isn’t good.

I’m also afraid to leave due to I’m scared he might do something stupid and also I really dont want to be bullied by his mom and sister.

I’ve tried talking to my parents but they tell me this is something to do on my own but they support whatever decision I make and my room is available at their house.

Please help. 😭