Should I break up with my boyfriend?

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He treats me well but I often times feel restricted and nervous in the relationship. He is not a bad guy he treats me very well but sometimes I feel uncomfortable in the relationship. He is kinda insecure and is a bit controlling about how I dress. I do not get to dress how I want to anymore because he will either make me change like I am a child or obsessivly put his hands over my body to cover it (in front of everyone). He thinks that everyone wants to get in my pants and hates it if a man even glances at me. His family is very abusive and his step mom talks crap about me. My bf did not defend me when she said horrible things about me for 
no reason. She said I was stupid and dumb and slow for no reason and that I was friends with whores. I have never been rude to his family and have always been polite to them. He treats me well and puts alot of effort into the relationship. He always compliments me and cares when I am sad. Am I over reacting? I was abused by my ex for two years and it was my first relationship and it really messed me up. Can I fix this relationship?

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His controlling behavior is indicative of someone who is likely abusive. In a healthy relationship, your partner doesn’t tell you how to dress or make you feel uncomfortable. It sounds like you’re trying to absolve him of any wrongdoing by saying “he treats me well” when in reality he doesn’t.

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So, he actually doesnt treat you well, is what im hearing.

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He’s controlling, which is abusive behavior. You seem to understand the signs, from being in a previous toxic relationship. I think you know what to do, and end it.

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You say that he treats you well and cares about you, but then you go on to describe how: 
-He makes you change your clothes if he doesn't approve of what you're wearing.
-He embarrasses you by putting his hands on you to cover you up in front of other ppl.
-He doesn't have your back when other ppl bad-mouth you. 
If he cared about how you felt, he'd put an end to that crap. I think your perception of what a "good relationship" is, has been warped by your prior relationship.

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Girl come on. If he's controlling what you wear and getting jealous and mad if another guy happens to look at you he is not treating you well.  Your entire post is contradictory.

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It doesn’t sound like he treats you well at all. He sounds insecure and borderline abusive. You should be able to wear what you want! You should definitely break up with him. There are plenty of other men that’ll treat you better than that

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Oh no, I knew from the first sentence you were probably being emotionally abused- and yes, you are. 
I'm sorry you have attracted this type of partner multiple times, who is uncomfortable with you just being you. It is very damaging to stay in relationships like that.

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You are very much under reacting. This is NOT treating you well. You need to put your foot down and stop letting him be that way to you. Tell him it hurts you that he’s like that, and won’t stay with someone who treats you like property￼. Tell him you are your own person and you won’t be controlled, you’ll wear what you want, and draw firm boundaries with him about everything. If he’s not willing to respect you, then you need to leave because trust me when I tell you that the apple does not fall far from the tree. If his family is abusive, he doesn’t stop them from abusing you, and he’s already showing red flags for abuse by being controlling, girl run.￼￼
￼You say he cares when you are sad, so then why doesn’t he say anything if his family treats you like shit? You say he cares when you are sad, yet he is still treating you like a piece of property instead of allowing you the freedom to be you.. ￼That doesn’t sound like he’s very caring at all. That’s not love. That’s someone who is trying to have power and control over you. ￼

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I think you meant to say you LET him make you change and you LET him put his hands over you, put your foot down.  As for his family I’d be gone already so f em🤷🏼‍♀️

Should I break up with my boyfriend?

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