Sex life!!!! IS THIS NORMAL??

Question

So my boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years. We have a good relationship but all he complains about is sex. He says it’s a stress reliever for him and he has been highly stressed these past 3 years. He expects to have sex at least 2 times a week and some type of other pleasure the other days. But sometimes I’m just not horny and I want to just chill ya know.... but let me not do anything to him or give him any pleasure and he treats me horribly. He gets attitudes, gets disrespectful, and can be mean 😞 Is this normal? I feel like I should be able to say no to anything sexual and not get punished for it💔

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You are correct! You should not ever have to do anything sexual with him if you do not want to. Even if you have been together for 15 years! It’s your body! A man should respect when you are not up for it. Do you allow him to watch porn and/or masterbate when you are not in the mood? I say 2 times a week is awesome and should be enough!

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I’ve read through all the comments and the more I read the more I think you should break up with him! There are problems on both the ends. He should be with someone who can matches his sex drive and that’s obviously important to him and he deserves that. You deserve someone who matches your sex drive and you know RESPECTS you! Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should automatically be with them. He treats you horribly and you just take it what because you love him? You don’t deserve to be treated like that just because you won’t have sex. Based on what you said he’ll probably treat you the same even if you did have sex whenever he wanted to. I honestly don’t think this is something that can be fixed or worked on. You both have needs the other person can’t meet. Find someone who is ok with 1-2 times a week and respects if you don’t want to have sex and just respects you all around because he doesn’t!

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Sorry no judgment but you don’t have sex at least 2 times a week? 
How many times do you want it then?? 
We try and do it at least 3/4 and we’ve been together 13 years

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You are right as to you dont have to do anything you dont want to. 
Lack of sex can lead to a failing relationship. For me twice a week wouldnt be enough and it wouldnt be for my husband either. We have sex daily and have been together 8 years. 
It might be time to have a real talk. If he needs his needs met, and that is a need, and you can't then it may be time he moves on. Differing sex drives can make or break a relationship for some.

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I get why hes frustrated but he should never be treating you with disrespect because hes horny.

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Im your boyfriend. I could easily do it once a day....probably more. Sex just helps with everything. My partner isn't like me. He likes it maybe 2 times a week. 
I get so easily frustrated! Like omg im so horny I just want to do it. 
Now..... the difference between me and your boyfriend is....
I do not make my partner feel like shit for having a different level of sex drive to me. If your boyfriend wants to please himself he can go masterbate, like other people. 
He should not be making you feel like your obligated to be a human sex doll for him. You don't want to do it. Then you don't need an excuse he should be fine with that. 
I suggest you tell him "i don't want sex as much as you and I dont appreciate you being mean and disrespectful to me when I say no. Stop it or we are done"

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Been married for 6 years and we have sex every other day it seems like. Sometimes twice a day. 
Anyway you should never let yourself be disrespected. If you’re not happy reevaluate your situation before it worsens.

Sex life!!!! IS THIS NORMAL??

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