Have you ever been called “cold” or emotionally unavailable?

What have you done to make yourself a “warm person”?

In the past, I have ppl tell me that I’m cold and sometimes I would even laugh and joke about it. Now that I have a child and in a relationship, both are now expecting me to be this emotionally close warm wife/mother.

I agree that both of my husband and child deserve a warm mom and god damn I’m trying my hardest, but being “cold” is my comfort zone, and it’s so cozy there.

I just googled “being emotionally cold” to see what I can find but they’re mostly articles about “leaving the cold person.”

I’m crying right now. Like, dont I have the right to be loved and forgiven? Are all these articles telling me that my family is better off without me??

It’s not fair. :( it’s not my fault both my parents are cold AF and I grew up this way. I don’t even know how to do warm things without ppl thinking “why are you so awkward about it?”

And why are we tell ppl to just “leave??” I don’t feel enough.