Possibly ttc related

I need some advice and or direction. Long story short, ever since I started birth control at 16 my hormone levels have been garbage. Moods, low libido, fluctuations in weight, acne, dry skin, fatigue, weird cycles (I’ve never missed a period but they’ve always been weird), skin reactions like random red blotches on my chest and face. Up until 2018, five years later, I never tracked my cycles. We wanted to conceive so I went to have my iud taken out and boom pregnant the first month. Ended up with a csection in 2019 so went on bc right away per my doctor even though I was hesitant, she strongly recommended it. Got off of it when my son turned a year old to ttc again. I had the shortest cycles, 19-22 days with spotting 7dpo. Went to my ob and once again I agreed (don’t ask me why 😪) to get back on birth control because she strongly suggested a certain one that would help me get back on track. 6 months later here I am again, off bc ttc with short cycles. It’s been two months since I stopped taking it and I’m so frustrated. I feel like my ob thinks it’s all in my head. I’ve had many hormone blood panels over the past few years and they have all been normal. I just had one the other day, alllll “normal”. This cannot be normal. It’s been such a battle. I know this a ttc group and while I want to conceive I also want to not go through a crazy tiring roller coaster ride of hormone emotions every freaking month 😤😫😕😕