Friends who don’t know their racist

I don’t think that it’s racist, per se, but I think they have a very strong preference. Why their preference is that way could definitely be a basis of racism, though. For instance, if they say they couldn’t date outside of their race because they don’t want their child to have dark skin, kinky or curly hair, or (here’s some stereotypes) they don’t want their child to eat fried chicken and watermelon all the time, or have big lips or a big nose, be stupid/unable to read, then they may be racist. Have you ever asked them why? I have friends who wouldn’t date outside their race, but they just “prefer” to be with someone who understands their struggles or lifestyles. I opened my eyes and found the love of my life. If people choose to be ignorant and bigoted, let them. They’ll doe out, eventually.

I feel you. I have had “friends” say the same thing to me and go into detail about why. It always comes off to me as they think there is something not good enough about that particular race. I always call them out on it

Having a preference is diff from being racist.