My husband always jokes that he’s an alcoholic, and I honestly think he is now.

I’ve never thought he was in the past, just someone who enjoys drinking.

He drinks every night. Yes, every single night. Could be 2 beers, could be 8. But he never gets drunk and always waits until the evening to drink.

He never makes it seem like he needs to drink, doesn’t get upset if he can’t drink, and never gets mean or out of control.

He can also go a night or two without drinking and be fine.

He’s a great father and husband, but on the very very rare occasion that he does get drunk, he gets emotional and twists my words and it turns into this debate where we go in circles for hours and he ends up crying.

Last night he got drunk and cracked a beer when he knew it was time to put the baby down and go to sleep. I was visibly upset and said I didn’t feel comfortable talking to him because he was drunk.

He took it as, I’m uncomfortable with him being around the baby and that he’s an unfit father. (Didn’t say any of that)

He’s already given up smoking, and going to the bar in the past few years, I don’t want him to quit drinking altogether, just drink like a normal person and maybe a beer here and there, not multiple drinks every night.

Now this morning he’s barely talking to me. I’ve tried apologizing, but he claims I’m not sorry.

How should I deal with this?