Need opinions

If you’re talking to someone, how long should it take for y’all to be in an actual relationship?

This is obviously just for opinions

I’ve been talking to this guy and I thought we were working towards a relationship, but every time I get upset about something he’ll say “ur not my girl”. And it’s really annoying 😂 I like things black and white, if I’m not ur girl I’m not going to do things a girlfriend does